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Personalisation is taking responsibility for things that aren't yours — a partner's mood, a friend's silence, a colleague's stress, the weather at the wedding.
It's especially common for people who grew up as emotional caretakers. If your safety once depended on managing someone else's feelings, your mind still scans for what you need to fix.
The reality: most of what happens to people around you has almost nothing to do with you. The skill is asking, 'is this actually about me — or am I assuming?'