Healthy, unhealthy and abusive behaviours

• Card 1

  Not every painful relationship is abusive, and not every abusive relationship looks dramatic. It can help to think in three broad descriptions rather than a single yes-or-no verdict.

• Card 2

  1. 1HealthyDisagreement without fear. Limits are respected. Repair happens. You can be yourself, keep your relationships and change your mind.
  2. 2UnhealthyPoor communication, jealousy, defensiveness or unfairness — often changeable when both people are willing and safe to work on it.
  3. 3AbusiveA pattern of control, fear or harm where one person's power over the other is maintained. Raising it tends to make things worse rather than better.

  These descriptions are here to support your own reflection. Only you get to decide how to name your experience, and you may not want to name it at all yet.

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