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Wellbeing writing for trauma survivors
Free, survivor-led articles on trauma recovery, nervous system regulation and everything in between. New writing every week.
Relationships
Why It's So Hard to Leave an Abusive Relationship
Leaving abuse is rarely simple; here we unpack the fear, hope, pressure and practical barriers that can keep us stuck
Relationships
Love Bombing: The First Red Flag Most People Miss
Love bombing can feel like being chosen at last, but its speed and pressure may be the first sign that something is wrong
Relationships
Gaslighting: How to Trust Yourself Again
Gaslighting can make our inner voice feel distant, but self-trust can be rebuilt through small, steady acts of reality-checking
Relationships
Coercive Control: The Quiet Kind of Abuse
Coercive control can be hard to explain because it often hides in rules, fear, monitoring and the slow shrinking of our choices
Relationships
Narcissistic Abuse: Recognising the Patterns
Narcissistic abuse is less about a label and more about repeated patterns of entitlement, blame, charm and emotional harm
Attachment
Trauma Bonding with a Parent: When Family Isn't Safe
Trauma bonding with a parent can leave us longing for closeness with the same person we may need protection from
Relationships
No Contact vs Grey Rock: Which Protects You Better
No contact and grey rock are different safety tools; the right choice depends on risk, access, children, work and capacity
Relationships
Why You Miss Them: The Withdrawal After Trauma Bonding
Missing someone who hurt us can feel confusing, but trauma bond withdrawal is often about nervous system patterns, not consent to harm
Self-Care
Rebuilding Your Sense of Self After an Abusive Relationship
After abuse, rebuilding a sense of self can begin with tiny preferences, safe choices, boundaries and remembering what belongs to us
Relationships
The Cycle of Abuse: Tension, Incident, Reconciliation, Calm
The cycle of abuse can make harmful relationships feel hopeful, confusing and hard to leave because calm often follows pain
Nervous System
How to Regulate Your Nervous System: A Gentle Guide
Living with a dysregulated nervous system can feel overwhelming and exhausting. This guide offers gentle, practical ways to understand your body's responses and support your journey towards greater calm and stability.
CPTSD
What Is CPTSD? Understanding Complex PTSD
Have you heard the term 'Complex PTSD' but you're not quite sure what it means? You're not alone. This guide gently explains what CPTSD is, how it develops, and the common signs, in warm, non-clinical language.
Grounding
The 5-4-3-2-1 Grounding Technique: A Simple Guide
When your mind is racing, the 5-4-3-2-1 grounding technique is a simple, powerful tool to bring you back to the here and now. Let's explore how this practice can support you in moments of distress.
Trauma Recovery
How Long Does Trauma Recovery Actually Take? A Realistic Guide
If you're asking 'how long does trauma recovery take?', you're not alone. It's a question many of us carry. This post explores a realistic timeline, honouring that every survivor's journey is unique.
Attachment
How to Heal from Childhood Trauma as an Adult: A Gentle Guide
Navigating the echoes of childhood trauma in adulthood can feel isolating, but you're not alone. This is a gentle space to explore what it means to come back to yourself and find your footing again.
Relationships
What Is a Trauma Bond & How Do I Recognise One?
Understanding a trauma bond can feel confusing and isolating. This is a space to gently explore what a 'trauma bond relationship' means, notice its signs, and discover you're not alone in this experience.
Anxiety
Emotional Dysregulation: What It Feels Like & How to Find Calm
If you often feel overwhelmed by big, intense emotions, you're not alone. This is a common experience after trauma, known as emotional dysregulation. Let's explore what it is and how we can gently find our way back to a sense of calm.
Somatic Therapy
Where Is Trauma Stored in the Body? A Survivor's Guide
Have you ever felt like your body holds onto past experiences, even when your mind has moved on? This is a common part of trauma recovery. We're gently exploring where trauma is stored in the body.
Sleep
Trauma and Sleep: Why It's So Hard and How to Rest Again
If you can't sleep after trauma, please know you are not alone. It's a common, if exhausting, part of recovery. Let's gently explore why this happens and what might help you find moments of rest again.
Self-Care
Trauma-Informed Self-Care: A Realistic Daily Practice
Finding a self-care routine after trauma isn't about bubble baths or grand gestures. It's about small, gentle moments of safety and connection that help you feel more present in your own body.
Trauma Recovery
The Phases of Trauma Recovery
A grounded, survivor-led look at the stages of trauma recovery — safety, remembrance, and reconnection — and what each one actually feels like day to day.
Grounding
Grounding 101: What to Do When the Body Activates
Simple, portable grounding practices you can use the moment the nervous system tips into fight, flight, freeze, or fawn — no equipment, no perfect timing.
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