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Perfectionism and internalised criticism

When the critic disguises itself as “high standards”.

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    Perfectionism can look like ambition or diligence from the outside, but underneath it is often the inner critic in disguise — insisting that being good enough is never quite enough, and that mistakes are dangerous rather than ordinary.

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    Signs perfectionism may be critic-driven

    • Finished work rarely feels “done” or good enough
    • Mistakes trigger a disproportionate sense of failure or shame
    • Rest feels unsafe unless it has been fully earned
    • Praise is deflected or quickly forgotten; criticism is remembered for years
    • Self-worth seems to rise and fall with performance
    High standards aren't the problem in themselves — it's when they are enforced through fear and self-attack, rather than care, that they start to cost you.
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